the queer skeleton...

i recently stumbled upon a friend's blog and discovered that he's actually gay! well, actually i wasn't very surprised. my reaction was more like, "hmm... gay huh? ok..."

i would say that has been my standard reaction when discovering that some of my friends are not straight, be it they coming out to me themselves or i found it out by chance. i've always been quite liberal abt such things... wanna get a tatoo? go for it! wanna take up pole dancing? why not? love someone of your own sex? hey, it's ur life!

actually, i kinda enjoy being in the company of my gay and les friends. sure, some of them can be pretty lewd and disgusting, but on the whole, i find them to be more truthful and open to their true self (at least those who've thrown open the closet door lar) than some of my straight friends, especially the girls. some straight girls can be pretty tight-assed, putting up a prim and proper front to such things as queers and same-sex relationships. i mean, come on lah, isn't homosexuality a pretty common thing now in this time and age?

for me, as long as they do not harm others, steal, rob, kill, murder etc, i'm ready to accept them for who they are. it's their life, after all. and as long as they're happy, who are we to judge what's right and what's wrong? i'm sure life is difficult enough for them as it is, without having their friends turning their backs on them once their skeletons spill out from the closet.

anyway, back to my gay friend. let's call him ryuu for easy reference. ryuu's actually the son of my parents' friends. so i can't say we had a particularly close friendship. sure, we played together when we were young, and meet occasionally during the get-together sessions of our families but i don't really know him that well, other than of course the general info such as he studied A in B university and is now a C in D state.

and finding out abt his sexual preference don't disturb me at all. on the contrary, i think i may have liked him a little bit more compared to before! yeah, i know, it's weird. but i've always prefered him to his (straight) elder bro anyway. maybe it's the age gap, but straight elder bro never really took much notice of me. racked my brains, but i can't recall a single occasion where he actually talked to me! on the other hand, ryuu is always making funny remarks at me, teasing me and telling me stuff. and he's such a drama queen! it's hard to keep up an appearance of shy feminine decorum when someone is pretending to faint on us, or giving a hilarious and exaggerated impersonation of the typical dragon lady mother-in-law!

but that being said, discovering ryuu's blog has put me in a dilemma. should i tell mom? from what i read in ryuu's blog, his parents are already in the know, so there's really no harm of mom spilling the beans. what i'm afraid of is mom asking those questions that they all like to ask when they get together... questions like, "has (name of son/daughter) found a girlfriend/boyfriend yet?" how should a mother to a gay son answer that?! "oh, not anytime soon. he's gay!"? i don't think so lor...

and god forbid if mom should ask that question to ryuu directly, and IN FRONT OF ME! gosh, i wouldn't know where to look! it'll be SO DEM BLARDY AWKWARD, i tell u!