Tuesday 22 August 2006

the mediator

sometimes i really suspect the parents and bro are staying in the same house, but at different times. have you seen 'the lakehouse'? if not, go read the sypnosis here. i'm too lazy to explain it here lar... go on, i'll wait for u. (actually i've not seen the movie, but i kinda know the story lar :Þ)

the reason i said this is because the parents and bro are always coming to ME for info. i just don't get it. it's as if they don't see each other, even tho' they're staying under the same roof. for example, if there's an impending family trip coming up, bro would be calling me and asking, "so tomorrow how?" or "what's the plan for our trip next week?" etc. or mom would be calling me up and asking, "did bro update you on his r/ship?"

hello?!? don't they see each other, like EVERYDAY? why still need to go thru a mediator staying so far away (me)? sometimes, it makes me feel kinda guilty when mom asked me something and i'll have to say i don't know when i do know. i mean sometimes, some of the things bro confide in me are quite personal... so takkan i go blab everything out to mom rite, even tho' bro didn't say i can't? these kinda confidences come with an unwritten/unspoken rule of silence, rite?

rite?

or when mom 'unload' abt bro to me. takkan i go blab it all out to bro geh mar... of course i must filter it and put it into nicer words before i 'feedback' to bro geh mar, rite?

hmm... i wonder if all mother & son r/ships are like that? or is it just in my family?

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

This kind of scenario is very normal in a M'sia family. Some of them not even talking to each other. They'll start their conversation when they are asking for money from each other.

It seems like a tourist(son) stay in a hotel(h'se). He is go out in daytime & come back when night. Sometime he'll asking for room service(clean up his room) from the cleaner(mom). But i'm not indicating your bro's fault, i'm just putting an example.

Nowadays, we are lack of caring to each other, especially to our PARENTS. Do we ponder before that why a LADY can risk HER life to born out a cute baby? And somemore, spend half of HER life to raise up every childrens without fail, and HER love are equally same to every childs. But why we as HER children always divide our love unfairly between HER & to ourselves, to our partner, to our career & etc.

I saw some stupid Chinese will cry like hell in front of the grave stone of their PARENTS with a lot of good food like a big barbeque pig, but before that, seldom talk with THEM on a dinner table???

We should appreciate the time we are together, so we don't regret in front of THEIR grave stone. What we are doing today with THEM will be reflected exactly by our next generation to us. Just ponder about it.

SL

stargal said...

yeah, i agree with you, SL. i've seen friends who shout and yell at their parents, coz they don't have the patient to explain or talk nicely to them, the very people who gave them life in the first place.

but in my bro's case, i think it's because guys don't really like to talk abt personal stuff to parents. gals are closer to their mothers, always chatting on the phone and giving updates.